As I spoke with a friend the other day, we discussed the politics of interracial dating. There is this funny thing called ‘matching’ when it comes to couples. For example, if a white man is with a girl of color, I have heard people say “they don’t match,” or “she is pretty, they look good together.” These statements are problematic for a number of reasons, but mainly one: it asserts that the minority portion of the couple, especially if that person is female, must be beautiful in order to ‘match’ her partner of another race. One should ask, have I ever thought this about couples? If I see a girl who is not attractive in my eyes, do I think she doesn’t ‘match’ her interracial partner?
Furthermore, getting down to the nitty-gritty of racial politics, I think it is safe to assume that a large portion of people also think that when it comes to asian and black relationships, it is ‘weird’ if the woman is black and the man is asian. Many people have told me that they naturally think it is strange to see such a strange concoction, especially because the black woman must completely overpower the asian man. Why do we think these types of things?
Another issue, is the belief that black men ‘look good’ with any race. Who decided that? It is unfair to afford such privileges to only men in general. Women of color should be able to date who ever they want at any point in their life. If you are out there and your nervous about ‘crossing over’ don’t be. People are people. I am not telling you to be blind about the potential drama that can occur as a result of interracial relationships, but I am telling you to be wise about why you think there will be drama. If the drama is the result of outside influences then they aren’t really your true friends. Be color wise about the truth of the matter. Cultural differences do exist, but should you limit yourself to one group because you are afraid that visually you won’t match?…….Think on that.